Just Say NO!

Do you ever find yourself being that over-obligator? Are you the "yes" man or "yes" woman who never says no? Is guilt driving your decision making? According to Wikipedia's definition, guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person believes or realizes—accurately or not—that he or she has compromised his or her own standards of conduct or has violated a moral standard and bears significant responsibility for that violation. It is closely related to the concept of remorse. Guilt is a low vibrational energy.

Saying yes from a place of guilt leads to feelings of resentment. Often you find yourself bitter about the task at hand than better for doing it. In the words of my dear friend, Dawn Ferrentino, NO is a full sentence. We have to learn to say no when the task is not in our best interest or in not in alignment with our integrity and there is no reason to harbor any feelings of guilt regarding saying no. It is okay to say no. Taking on too much can cause physical and emotional fatigue all of which serves no one. Your health is in your hands so you have to learn to practice self-care. Practice saying no and set boundaries with your time. You will be a lot happier and healthier.

As saying no becomes less awkward for you, you will feel lighter like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. It is amazing the pressures we put on ourselves. Even our Creator says no to us so keep all things in perspective and this will allow you to not have these feelings of guilt. Here’s to you standing in your power, setting boundaries, and saying no:)